Help on fixing my hair please??!!?

ok here's how my hair is: natural dark brown and curly. im a black mixed person so my hair looks sorta like michael jackson's hair did in that BAD video. here's the problem: i used a gel on my hair for about a month and i didn't realize that the gel almost straightend out my hair completely and changed it's color to a lighter brown. my hair is very fragile and it's about 8 inches long. i really need help! i want it longer and curly, but it's extremely frizzy too. i made the mistake of getting a texture then relaxer. the only curls left are at the back on the ends of my hair. i know it's all screwed up, but i don't wanna trim it. i wanna know how to get it healthy again at a low cost and how to make it longer.

i also have some questions

1 what are split ends?

2 how long is an 'end'?

3 how do i defrizz it? all the defrizzing stuff don't work well

4 how do i make it longer, shinier,softer, healthier, and curlier?

thanks for the help. im sorry for all the questions.

Help on fixing my hair please??!!?

1st Split ends are at the end of your hair it splits or you see it break if you do not get this taken care of the split ends creep up and your hair will keep breaking farther up so if you have them get rid of them. I use the the Paul Mitchell Hair Serum I start at the ends and work my way up stay away from the top of your head. for the Curly part I know some one that uses Assuie Crunch and Curl I have straight hair ! and I use it and I have a weave in my hair. As far as you wanting it to grow fast and a shiny look. I also use "Main %26amp; Tail" It is found in the pet section! It does work it is even in the back of a cosmo mag. ect, And this also helps keep down the slits ends. Hope this works any questions email me.

Help on fixing my hair please??!!?

well questions are the basis of this sites whole purpose really so ya split ends is when one hair actually is split in two, for frizz go for john frieda de frizz, for your hair to have its color and curls back use any shampoo and conditioner that sais its for curly hair and avoid gel use shampoos and conditioners for major healing about color and use volume conditioners and shine shampoos like pantene pro v ice shine and ya

Help on fixing my hair please??!!?

Well what a mess. I think you should first get a good shampoo. Not something you pick up at walmart. Redken Extreme Shampoo and Conditioner. They also have a treatment for really damaged hair, which yours seems to be. It's called Deep Fuel. It is a protein treatment which is what your hair is mostly. Split ends are the little splits on the very ends of your hair caused by damage. As for defrizzing Redken makes something for that also Smooth Down Shampoo and Con. they also have some styling products to help Glass and Heat Glide. You could go to a Redken salon and they have something called prescription hair care and they will tell you what you need. Also I wouldn't do any other chemical services on my hair if I were you. And a trim probably wouldn't hurt. They longer part will just take time. Good luck